Saturday, October 30, 2010

Searching for a bride -contd

We are still searching for a suitable bride for my younger brother ,xyz,Ph.D. with a decent salary in the middle east .We are close to finalising a bride.My brother wants to chat /talk with the bride to be before seeing the girl in person.His thinking is In case either the bride does not like the groom or the groom does not like the bride ,the in person meeting (Penn paarkkum padalam) between the groom and bride family is going to cause heartburn for both families.To avoid this unsavoury episode he and I (his eldest brother) want to avoid the in person meet till the preliminary chat /phone talk between the bride and groom takes place .This would save a lot of embarassment at a later stage.In this connection I would like to cite a real life incident that happened in Srirangam.A well settled Dubai based son of a Koyil Archaga came all the way from Dubai to Srirangam and then went to Karur for penn paarkkum nigazhchi with his family.But the Bride declined the groom .What a waste of time , money ,loss of face etc. causing unspeakable mental agony to the groom's family.To avoid such incidents it is preferable for the Informal communivation between the 2 parties involved.Sadly my father does not appreciate this principle.